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Crocheting for Confidence!

Crafting is such a deeply personal thing for a lot of people. We work away on our projects, often re-working and re-designing several times to get something “just right.”

Sometimes, the most difficult part of the process is finding the confidence to show off the finished article, especially if it has been made for a really special occasion and is the result of many, many hours of work.

I made this veil for my daughter’s First Holy Communion last year, and had such a crisis of confidence that I almost gave in at the last minute – I would have gladly gone out to buy one rather than have my home-made version on show for all to see.

In my eyes I had made the veil too long, and the weight of the cotton was pulling the top out of shape. If I had made it shorter, the bottom edging would have been more visible against my girl’s dark blonde hair, rather than lost against the white dress. The beads I used didn’t give enough sparkle, and I should have used something in crystal, rather than pearly white……..

Why so negative?! I am normally a very positive person, and try to see the good in most things. Why was I being so harsh about this veil?

If someone else had made the veil and given it to my daughter, I would have been over the moon and been thrilled with such a personal gift.

I think it is because I have always been a shy person, and my confidence has taken a real knock over the last few years. This is something I can either give in to, and crawl away to hide from the world, or fight against and get back out there.

I chose the latter, that day, and I pinned the home made veil to my daughter’s hair, even though I was a bundle of nerves. She loved it, and so did a lot of people. Of course, a lot of other people didn’t even notice it – I had built this up in my mind, into a really big deal, when in actual fact, it was only a very minor part of what was a really lovely day.

Lesson learned;

From now on, if you want to create something, just go ahead and do it. Our creativity is what makes us all so unique, and it would be such a loss to go through our whole lives hiding it away from the world.

Over the past week, since starting this blog, I have seen many, many photographs of other peoples’ creations, and have really loved them all. I am going to continue to share my own photos here in the continuing fight against shyness. Let’s have a little faith in ourselves and in our own abilities. πŸ™‚


Comments on: "Crocheting for Confidence!" (20)

  1. The veil looks lovely. It’s all the more special and meaningful because it was made for the occasion. Well done πŸ™‚

  2. It’s really very beautiful. Your daughter is blessed to be able to wear such a lovely thing made especially for her.

    • Thank you so much! One of my worries was that my daughter would see the other girls and want a shop-bought veil like theirs. I am happy to say that she was very proud to have one that was made by her mum. It could have gone either way though, knowing my daughter! πŸ™‚

  3. That is beautiful!! Wow!

  4. This is beautiful! I do understand what you mean though. I’ve just completed my first piece as a gift for someone rather than just for myself and it was really hard to believe it was good enough to give away.

    • It is hard, isn’t it? My kids are at the age when they are coming running in after school to show me what they have made, and it is wonderful. I don’t know what age we lose that pride in our own work. Let’s get it back! πŸ™‚

  5. It is recognizable what you write, but when I look at your work then you can be proud of yourself!

  6. I think we can be so over critical of our own work. It is difficult not to see all the things you would change if you could do it again. Children are not backwards in coming forwards with their thoughts. They could never sugar coat a comment. So take pride in the fact that your daughter loved it!
    It is quite beautiful BTW. As you will see when you come across it years later.

  7. This is gorgeous and destined to be a family heirloom well done

    • Thank you πŸ™‚ My daughter did say to me recently that she will keep the veil for her daughter to wear – I had to blink very hard to keep the happy tears in !

  8. There is nothing more special than a hand crafted gift, well done! Your daughter has something to treasure and an heirloom for her future x

  9. I completely understand how you feel about crafting being very personal. Kabalists say that a piece of your soul goes into everything you create. This makes your crafting creations very personal. I had the same feelings about the music I write. i would never let anyone see the sheet music and I would rarely play it for anyone. Eventually I got past it–for me it was a maturity thing. Thanks for sharing. BTW – the veil looks AMAZING πŸ™‚

    • I quite like the thought of putting part of me into everything I make, it might explain the whole perfectionism/ocd thing that a lot of crafters and creators suffer from! It does make you feel very naked and vulnerable when it comes to showing people though.
      Thank you! πŸ™‚

  10. The veil is absolutely stunning. No wonder your daughter loved it! I know how you feel. I feel the same way about my drawings.

    • Thank you! πŸ™‚ Just keeping this blog has been a real lesson in confidence for me. Even though it is anonymous, I still got worried at the start about sharing pictures – but people have been amazing, and it is a real boost to read all the lovely comments xx

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